just to be clear... its relatively reasonable that my wife thought I cheated. It was a really messed up situation which made me look terrible and suspicious as all hell.
Story time: My wife knew I threw a small get together at our house. A friend (george) brought his 26 year old 'girlfriend' which was really just some girl that he was hooking up with from my bar. She was reckless and annoying. Within an hour she drank a ridiculous amount, got into a fight with george, threw up in my bathroom, and then passed out on my bed. Tried to get her up and she fought with me and the boyfriend then tried to get her into the car and she kept fighting with him in a sort of drunken stupor. He just asked me to allow her to stay for one night and he would stay too, I sighed and said alright. Wife was supposed to come home at the next night. I texted her saying that george and his girlfriend were sleeping over because his girlfriend got drunk, she got upset at me over that, I said I honestly had no choice and that im sorry, it was like 2am and they were both asleep. I slept in the next room, in the morning I told george, I have to go to work, she better be out of here before my son wakes up. George tries to get her up, gives up, and leaves her there. Wife, who was already upset at me from before, decides to come home early without telling me and finds her on our bed in her underwear, with george nowhere to be found. Wife freaks out, asks the girl what the fuck she's doing, girl says she has no idea, she was high on xanax and alcohol and didn't remember anything from the night before. My wife asked if she had sex with me, she said she has no idea. She mentioned she knows me from the bar, and she apparently described me as 'a hunk', which obviously doesnt help my case. The xanax explains her awful behavior, and why she doesnt remember anything. Not only that, but my son saw her apparently and thought the same thing, that I had slept with this girl. My wife and this girl argued for apparently half an hour. I really, really dont even want to imagine what this girl was saying. If you have ever seen the movie The Florida Project, she is similar to the main character mom.
So yeah. That is the story there. I got George to tell her what was up, she said he was just lying to save my ass. Needless to say I was furious at george for leaving her there like that. Worst part is that he didn't even tell me he left her there.
Anyways, wife left me after a lot of fighting. I don't know if she will ever come back, its been 4 months and any day she is gonna request a divorce. It doesn't help that this is a build up of suspicions over years. I own a bar, she has been suspect that I cheat with some of the women who go to the bar who flirt with all the bartenders, but they have mostly been slight suspicions that we talked out. Now with this incident she just assumes I have always cheated on her.
But my son... he is beyond heartbroken at this. I mean, holy shit. His attitude towards me has changed from nice to hostile since this incident. He wont even look at me. He keeps saying I am a terrible person for cheating, and that he is depressed because his mom left, and that he hates me and all this stuff. I have told him time and time again, I did not cheat. He said that was bullshit, there was a drunk half naked 26 year old girl in my bed, it was obvious what went down.
One day I went into his room and he had cut himself. I saw blood on a bandage. It wasn't a deadly cut, it was on his arm. I asked him what the hell he had done, and why he did that, and he said it was because of me, and that he hates me and is depressed because his mom is halfway across the country and that I ruined everything. The cut was small... but still. I told him he has to get into therapy, and he said no, and that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore.
I am just completely unsure what to do. I got into a horrible fight with george recently over this one night when I was drunk, I blamed him entirely, which was stupid and immature on my part. But honestly, I am totally broken up over this. My wife leaving me sucks. But my son hating me? It just tears right into me. And him hurting himself over this is so much worse.
What the hell am I supposed to do? This one fucking event has just ruined absolutely fucking everything in my life.
TL;DR - My wife falsely thinks I cheated on her and she left me, now my son hates me and he recently self harmed and blamed me for it. Unsure what to do.
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