So last Friday was my friend's [27F] bachelorette party and I am (or I guess was) a bridesmaid in the wedding. First of all, I'd like to say I wasn't drinking and I was being responsible, just clumsy. I wanted to point that out because I understand that could change things a bit.
After dinner, we were leaving the restaurant and I missed some steps and hurt my ankle. Immediately I had intense pain, bruising and swelling, but I could still put a little pressure on it. Some bridesmaids each volunteered to drive me to the ER but I declined because I didn't want to put a damper on things and take anyone away from the celebration. It was my friend's night. I hobbled around the rest of the night for as long as I could, but after a couple hours decided to take an uber back to the hotel when it became unbearable. I apologized for leaving but I couldn't tolerate the pain anymore.
The next morning when I woke up, my foot was much worse. I couldn't put any weight on it and I couldn't walk without the help of two of my friends. Everyone seemed really concerned except the bride. She seemed pretty annoyed if anything. I skipped her breakfast and went straight to the ER where x-rays and an MRI confirmed I broke it in two places and tore some ligaments.
The day after that was my friend's bridal shower. I was in A LOT of pain, even with my ankle propped up and when I'd go to walk with crutches, as soon as I put my ankle down, it hurt so bad I'd almost be in tears. I basically could only tolerate getting myself to the bathroom and couldn't imagine leaving the house yet. I was also taking a lot of pain meds at that point. The bridal shower was over an hour each way and even if I got a ride, I just didn't think I was up for it. I called my friend and apologized profusely but explained to her what was going on and I wouldn't be making it and that I'd give her her gift when I saw her next. I think this is what really upset her. She basically just said ok, cut me off and then hung up on me.
I texted her after and apologized again and asked how it went. No response. Then this morning she texted me a long message, saying she was sorry but didn't want me in the wedding anymore. She didn't think I could perform bridesmaid duties with my injury or give her wedding the proper attention. She also said it would be difficult to accommodate someone with a cast/crutches during the ceremony and reception. The doctor told me I'd probably be in a boot and able to stand/walk by the end of June when her wedding is anyway, but whatever.
My feelings are extremely hurt and I don't know what to do from here. It's her wedding and she can do what she wants, I'm not going to argue with her or beg to be in her wedding. But I haven't responded because I don't know what to say. I am really upset with her, but part of me thinks maybe I'm being unreasonable. I was a bridesmaid and close friend and I did miss her shower and leave before breakfast following her bachelorette party. I'm not sure if I should text back and tell her that's ok, or if I should text back and tell her ok, but state how hurt I am. I'm also not really sure I want to even be friends with her anymore, honestly. Am I being unreasonable?
TL;DR: I broke my ankle at my friend's bachelorette party. I missed the shower 2 days later because of the pain. She was upset and kicked me out of the wedding party stating I couldn't fulfill my bridesmaid duties and it would be hard to accommodate me at the wedding. I'm extremely upset but am not sure if I should be or if I'm being unreasonable.
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