Hello r/relationships! Sorry if this is long.
I have a friend 28F named "Kathy" who I've been friends with for 6 years. She's very fun and I definitely consider her to be a friend but she can also frequently be flaky and is always late for everything! 99% of the time this doesn't bother me personally.
Background: About 3 months ago I started going to a specialized work out class (keeping it vague because Kathy reddits). I'm starting to make friends there/getting to know the instructors and I love it!
In the studio, if there's a new person in the class, the instructor will take extra time to set up their equipment and let them know the safety rules. Nobody is expected to be perfect their first time but there is one specific rule to follow so that you don't get hurt as well as one piece of necessary equipment you can rent from the studio. Once the class starts, the door shuts and it's go go go until the end (40 min).
I invited Kathy to an intro class because she said she's always wanted to try it. I told her to come 20 minutes early to register/set up and that the doors close at the start of the class so to meet me in the change room before.
I texted her an hour before class and I didn't hear anything. 30 min before class I call her - nothing. 10 min before class I get a text saying she's finding parking. I waited until the 2 min warning before class and she still wasn't there so I went to get my spot in the room.
Just as the door is closing, Kathy squeezes in! The class started just as she got into her spot, but the instructor was already teaching so she didn't have a chance to come over. Kathy is clearly having trouble doing the class and it's super loud in the room so I was trying to talk to her as best as I could but it took about 15 min before I realized that she didn't have the piece of equipment needed because she thought she would be fine without it.
You really need it, so I got the instructor over to provide her with it which interrupted the entire class. I should mention that it's not a cheap class and I could tell people were upset - I kind of was too. Things were going ok until Kathy broke basically the one rule which can really injure you and the people around you - but she didn't know because she missed the pre-class chat with the instructor. She ended up hurting her knee and left the class about 10 min early.
I followed her out and she was so mad at me saying I made her look like an idiot, that I should have told her the rules, that she can never show her face there again etc. I apologized because yes, I probably should have told her the rules in a text or something but I was really hoping she would be on time!
The next time I went to my studio, my instructor was saying that I should have helped my friend more etc. I feel SO bad! I really didn't mean to do anything but my instructor was saying that the class was pretty pissed that they were interrupted so many times. I apologized, but I still feel awful!!!!
This place was honestly my happy place after my mom died a couple months ago and now I feel like Kathy and the studio instructors are now pissed at me.
What can I do to right the situation?
tldr: I brought a friend to a workout class, she was late, missed the instructions, got hurt, is mad at me, studio is mad at me, studio used to be my solace, now it's a sad place.
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