Hi r/relationships! TL;DR down the bottom!
So a little back story, when I was 15, I started working at this small restaurant in my home town (not a chain, just a family owned business). It was my first job, I was so excited and 5 years later, I'm still there (I hate it with a passion, but that's a different story). I'm in university, so I work there part time 5 or 6 nights a week, which is pretty much triple the other girls that work there. They always ask me to cover their shifts (they're still young and like to go out an party, me not so much) so I end up working almost all week.
A few weeks ago, my family has the opportunity to move to another state in our country, the house we move into will be 15 minutes away from a better university than I'm currently going to, compared to the 2 hour commute every single day that is taking a toll on me, being so far away from my family.
I told all my coworkers yesterday night (I'm leaving in 5 months, so this is plenty of time to hire and train more people to cover the copious amounts of shifts I work each week) and they took it extremely badly. They said it was unfair I was leaving, who would cover their shifts, why would I leave them in a time they needed more waitresses ect.
Of course moving to another state to be with my family and go to a better school makes me selfish, but did they really expect me to work there my entire life to pick up the work they can't do?
I told my boss after my shift the same night and she got angry as well, saying that everything in the restaurant was fine and I was fucking it up, I was being disrespectful and ungrateful for leaving (you can tell I'm not the favourite). I explained that I'm happy to train people various nights to take over (as I've literally trained each of my coworkers) but she doesn't want to hire people because "I do everything anyway".
My coworkers refuse to speak to me unless they need something (I would tell them to shove it up their ass, but I don't want to rock the boat anymore than it's already been rocked), my boss yells at me and berates me even more than usual in front of customers and threatens to give me a bad reference if I quite and I'm at my wits end.
The only person who works there that's nice to me anymore is my boss' husband, but doesn't want to get involved because "the drama at the front of house isn't my business" (not that I expect him to, but you know, support would be nice). Am I actually a bad person for quitting this job? I'll answer further questions in the comments, any type of criticism is welcome!
Tl;dr - moving to a different state for family a school, have to quit job, boss and coworkers are being belligerent about it and I don't know if I'm in the wrong or not.
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