I’ve been blessed to not have any pets die or family members I know pass away, so I’ve never had to face grief and it’s stages until now.
My cat (15f) was a birthday present when I was 6 and she’s been a huge part of my life providing company and support as I grew up. There’s no words to express the time we’ve spent together let alone the difficulty I’ve had accepting that her time could possibly be close, but I accepted my parents decision to put her down in the near future because I haven’t seen her much for two years since I moved out and started working full time, so I don’t know her quality of life exactly anymore.
The part I’m having anger over is my parents refusal to let me be there as they put her to sleep. I feel like I’m being sheltered from grief and I know it won’t feel like I can accept she’s gone if I don’t see it. When I try to give them reasons why I should be there, my mom shut off her phone and my dad told me to grieve in private and honor my mother’s wishes. In typical fashion I feel unheard and like a grunt expected to follow orders (this is a military family after all).
Is there anything I can do about this, any way I can beg to get them to change their minds? I’ve considered taking and caring for my kitty myself but I live in a studio that doesn’t allow pets. Any advice at all please?
Thank you if you read all of this.
TL;DR: My parents won’t let me be there when my cat is euthanized and I won’t grieve properly without being there with her. Any advice for how to handle this?
Edit: Send help how do I get regular text I’m sorry.
Double edit: got it.
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