Step father (m70s) is suicidal i (f28) need advice on how to help

My mother and step father were together for 15 or so years. They recently split due to his alcoholism and affairs. Liam was abandoned at birth by his bio mother and has no living family left. He is an extremely introverted individual and has very few friends. The split between him and my mother was acrimonious, i know my relationship with him is separate from my mothers but his behaviour during the breakup has made it impossible for me to continue to see him. Liam's friend James called me a few days ago asking if i had seen or spoken to Liam in the last few weeks. Liam is drinking more heavily to the point where he is barely awake in the evenings, he isn't sleeping and is rapidly loosing weight. James is worried sick as am i and my mother. We still love him we are all trying to help but he is blocking everyone out.

He is not looking after himself, i know he would find seeing me painful he would shut down and not talk to me, he is refusing to even talk to James and becoming a complete recluse. I was thinking of sending a care package of things he likes, coffee, books some bath stuff that helps you sleep with a note saying something like "look after yourself, love you".

I just wanted advise on if this is a good idea or not and if it is what else could i include?

Just to preempt the usual relationship tropes.

1. yes i am sure the relationship with my mother can't be mended,
2. yes it is my business he is hurting and he is the man who raised me i still love him
3. My mother is in too fragile a mental state to deal with it so that is not an option
4. yes he genuinely has no family and only the one friend so there is no support network
5. i am asking for advise on how to help him now, going over the break up and what he has done will not be helpful
6. where i am there the authorities would not do a welfare checked based on what is happened. Yes i am sure that was my first though as well.

so has anyone been in this situation and know how to help from a distance? Or has anyone been suicidal what has reminded you that you are loved?

TLDR **former step father is suicidal he has become very reclusive how can i help from a distance?**

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