Hello /r/relationships,
I've got some issues lately with my girlfriend who's currently working as an Au-Pair in Australia (we're both from Germany). We have been together for 1,5 years and the relationship is generally very healthy. It's her first relationship and my second.
She lives in Australia for two months now and everything was fine at the beginning. We skyped about four times a week for at least one and a half hours. She has met other Au-Pairs (all female) of which one, Mary, is a really good friend now. She spends like all of her free time with her.
A week ago my gf told me that she and Mary both want to create a Tinder profile to "meet new people to hang out with" and asked me if I was okay with it. I obviously told her that I'm not okay with it because Tinder is a dating-App and there are other ways to meet new friends. Well, she installed it anyway. At first she said "don't worry, nobody could replace you and it's really just to make friends. Mary and I are always together if we meet someone from Tinder".
Today I got a message from her that she's going to see a guy and go for a walk to have a talk, just him and her. I confronted her and told her how I felt. I don't have a problem with her meeting other guys, it's only that Tinder is the wrong platform for "making friends". She said "I will tell him, when we meet, that I don't want anything but to hang out and talk" which hints at me, that her profile probably doesn't contain pictures of us or has any information that she's in a relationship because she has yet to tell him. Additionally, he's incredibly handsome and looks more attractive than me.
I want to believe her. I really do, but I can't right now. Yet I don't know what to do. Just four weeks ago we planned our trip along the Australian East-Coast and now she hangs out with other men without telling them beforehand that she's in a healthy relationship? She promised that she always tells the truth and will inform me of every meeting with other people. It simply doesn't add up and something feels off but I have no way of getting more information other than the ones she gives me.
What am I supposed to do now? Thanks for your efforts!
TL;DR girlfriend of 1,5 years is 15.000 kilometres away, created a Tinder profile to "make friends" and now meets guys without telling them beforehand that she's in a relationship. Promises she always tells me every bit of information but ignores that I have a problem with her being on Tinder in the first place.
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