My husband and I have been married a couple of years and we have a good marriage although not perfect because we aren’t robots. I have a very successful career at a fairly young age and have always been footing the bill for EVERYTHING including all household bills, vacations, etc. I have supported my husband through school and am always encouraging him better himself. His life has dramatically improved since we started dating about 8 years ago.
My husband truly is a good partner but he doesn’t seem to notice the mental strain that I feel when he is consistently praised by others. Whether it’s my family, his family, or literal strangers on the street, he is always called intelligent, smart and generally praised for being a great person. Well, he is a wonderful person but I RARELY, if ever, get any type of complements (from him or anyone else) regarding my accomplishments or the sacrifices I have made to make his life better. My family always tells me that if we were to get divorced, they would keep my husband and get rid of me.
Over time, this has made me very resentful towards others and my husband (which I hate feeling). I work so hard for us to have a good life and I am always encouraging him to follow his dreams but I rarely get any kind of encouragement in return. He tells me it is because they know I’m smart or it is just expected of me. I sometimes wonder if it is because I am a woman but I’m not so sure.
Basically, what the hell do I do to stop being so resentful of providing a vast amount of emotional and financial support to my husband while he basks in the glory of being constantly complimented by everyone while I stand at the side? He certainly deserves it but so do I. It is wearing me down.
TL;DR: my husband is perfect and it’s making me resentful which I hate.
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